Saturday, September 15, 2012

Set the record straight ha!

I've been asked over the years why I date (studs) women that dress like boys. I see the look of confusion on the faces of many albeit none of their business to analyze my life or choices. Alas I am an OPEN BOOK and would rather someone ask for clarification than to assume and be so terribly wrong. Lesbians, Gays, Bi's, Trans it's so common now that I would think the common misconceptions wouldn't be so anymore. So here goes let me shed light on the grey matter. 1. I am a lesbian not confused just so we are all on the same page! 2. I date lesbians! Preferably no only out of the closet I'm not in the space of living in shadows then being colorful when the doors close. "I'm All Set With That". I date women that identify as more masculine by nature but that still accept that they are women that's the difference for me.To the Butches out here having their women call them daddy and the children the same it's not my cup of tea. If I wanted to be with blood and veins I would date a male. So many in the younger generation step onto the platform of this lifestyle for the sake of shock value or the most extreme way to be defiant. For the true members of the rainbow flag it's who we are it's everyday life (It's Not A Game) or a rinse in hair dye that washes out when you're done. We are intimate just like the Straights possibly more creative (wink) and we have the pleasure of not needing a delay between rounds 1 and 2 hmmmmm ain't that nice. We care about each other, our relationships are the same as yours. We face the same hurdles and deal with the same hurt. If people took the time to see us as individuals and not our label we would have a better understanding of each other. We still have values noen of that changes with the statement "I like girls" at the core we are HUMAN coexists with us as such. Attempt to become informed and prepare to be shocked but the brutally honest answers that are sure to come in the process of clearing the AIR.

2 comments:

  1. Great post. It seems that in the African-American Lesbian community everyone is finding themselves defending their choices, whether it's the women who choose not to conform to the Stud-Femme model having to defend/explain why they prefer their Femme-Femme or Stud-Stud relationships, or the Stud-Femme relationships defending why one is maculine and the other feminine if they are both lesbians. We wont get anywhere unless we just let each other be.

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  2. @Lebianinthecity thank you for your comment and excuse my extreme delay. Your right on point with that. So glad you understand where I was coming from with this one. I've had a lot going on as we all do so look forward to posts more regularly in the very near future.

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