The Morning AFTER

After creating my blog in the wee hours of the morning it hit me. By spreading my thoughts and views on certain subjects. I could be the voice for other's that have yet to speak. That's huge! Trust me I'm not getting ahead of myself just thinking. What if my one blog causes other people of like mind to do the same. Then someone hears us collectively and things start to CHANGE? That's how change generally happens. A thought turns into an action, actions turn into follow through, and things start to CHANGE. I hope it does because it's well overdue. In talking with one of my gym buddies she brought up some really good points. What it boils down to for me is I want to see more everyday stuff for GLBT we do everyday things EVERYDAY just like everybody else. It would be nice to kick back and relax around US on a regular basis. A weekly poetry night, a book club, a local bar that's accepting of all but that keeps things interesting I don't want it to become "That Gay Bar" which is normally how our clubs are labeled. We don't discriminate the straights can come and party with us anytime. Your guaranteed to have a blast. and Whether people know it or not we party with the straights a lot more than they know because straight clubs/bars tend to have more going on than our places. I don't force who I am down anyone's throat nor do I hide that I am who I am. I want the option to hang out in whatever environment I choose on that day and have the options always be there. Gay bar on Tuesday, movies on Friday, Dinner and Drinks on Sunday just because I can. I just want to love,live and be overly stimulated in my social life because more things interest me than I have time to commit to. Seemingly I'm asking for to much but am I really?

The Me I Don't See

Tonight I was having a conversation with my sister about Lesbians and how we are the same but differ according to race and mindset. Before you twist your face up hear me out. We are the same in many ways but one difference sticks out like a sore thumb to me and that's the face time of non White Lesbians in the media. No matter where I look or attempt to look for that matter I don't SEE ME! From the L Word to the Real L Word there seems to be something lacking in the actuality of the life I know. I see shades of me (as in human) and situations that I could potentially be in, but it's never based in areas that are familiar to me. I've never seen a club shown or spoken about that sounds like a place my friends and I would frequent. We hear about the clubs/bars we choose word of mouth Mainly while attending 1 of the many PRIDE events held throughout the year. Can I frequent a club or bar that brings a diverse group of people together all in the name of having a good damn time, and play a little something for everyone. That way were a not subdivided anymore than we already are? I never hear about trips that me and my girlfriend of 5 years could attend and when asked be able to say that was amazing. Can I get a ski trip invite, or a non PRIDE related weekend for us all to wave our flags on a random month just because it seemed like fun. The music I like to listen to is hardly ever the soundtrack to anything and I'm extremely diverse. Can I hear Keyshia Cole or a Mary J. Blige playing after a breakup scene then I know it's real lol. Or even my/our terminology. Do the terms "Girl Bye, Get Ya Life, or Real Talk mean anything"? In that sense it has nothing to do with race it has to do with a mindset. I can rock,kick back, converse, love, and accept anyone! So then the question remains Where are we? I know we exist! We being people who share the same views on life and how we choose to live ours. I wake up and live this everyday and I agree with people everyday on some aspect so I think like other people and vice versa. There are a ton of us and I bet if even a piece of our story were told or seen a lot of people would be interested and craving more. I like the fact that we as a whole GLBT are being more readily accepted and that we are making leaps and bounds in terms of equality. I do think there is are different shades of Lesbianism that has yet been touched upon. But then again there is a lot about Lesbianism that hasn't been viewed and is still misunderstood. We are still evolving in the media I just hope to one day say I truly can identify with the show that I turned to or the story that I read. I do however respect that every Blogger, Reality TV Personality, Scripted show actor/actress is living their truth and this is just a part of mines.