Think before you SPEAK!

I took a little break from my very short blogging career to wrap my mind around what I was taking on. I hope to be the voice of reason on the subjects I touch upon. At the very least give those who don't understand a clearer vision of the picture hanging on the wall. That brings me to my latest statement up for discussion. On numerous occasions since coming out at the age of 16 I've heard from males "Your to pretty to be gay" Over the years I've had many conversations with family, friends, even some close coworkers about what that means. Well at least what it means to me. I am not easily offended but that statement to me is slightly offensive. Not necessarily because of what was said but because of what it implies. To me that statements says ONLY THE ONES WE DON'T WANT SHOULD BE THAT WAY and yes the thoughts come across that bold in my head when I hear it. How is anyone to pretty to be a certain way? For one to think that, wouldn't that imply that you have judged the book by it's cover rather than the content of it's pages? If a woman drives fast and has handle when she pulls up to a light is she told she's to pretty to drive that way? Is it meant as flattery? But since males can have an opinion on which females should be gay (LESBIAN) let me school you. Saying a woman is to pretty to be gay is like me saying to you it's a shame that your straight. If anything it attempts to diminish who and what we stand for. Last I checked I made up my own mind, was happy with my decision, and accepted it as the best choice for me. Who are you to come and challenge that? With a weighted statement as such makes me realize how unknowing you truly are. Lesbianism is so much more than your adolescent fantasy. It's about women loving women being understanding of each other and our individualized needs as only we can. It's about communicating in a way that needs no words because she is you and you are her. The perfect balance of compliment and challenge. Word to the wise it is of good practice to Think before you speak and for those that like stepping into uncharted territory with preconceived notions I hope you have a lot of time and brought your notebook because class is in SESSION!